Bitchy today

Clare,

Your post has me asking a few questions. They can be considered rhetorical.
First, it is curious that you refer to your estranged husband rather than ex…
what's that about today?
Also, I remember a time that you were frightened that he would not return your children when he had them at his home…
how does that reinforce his victimization?

S#3 has made some choices in her life that maintains her lack of control in her own life. I think she is suffering under the weight of raising 4 children that she did not choose to have, but she also enables her daughter to dump responsibility onto her shoulders day after day, month after month, year after year.
I suspect that she would be lost if she didn't have that forced structure on her life.
So she can choose to be burdened while surrounded by people she loves or alone with time to relax.
She has to make that choice…
live with the known, uncomfortable situation…
or step out of the uncomfortable comfort zone and journey into the unknown.
Most people stick with the uncomfortable comfort zone…
I'm not being harsh…
just realistic.
When life gets this uncomfortable we are being offered an opportunity to change…
to choose differently…
to take a step into the unknown.
Taking that step takes serious courage…
and self-confidence…
and stamina.
S#3 lacks those in significant quantity. She hides from her true feelings and issues. The current child-rearing is a distraction from the work she could be doing on herself. She is treading water because not seeing over the horizon paralyzes us from moving forward. Fear is powerful.

I read this and feel as if I am being bitchy.
But the reality is true…
change is knocking at her universal door…
she can acknowledge it and walk forward or continue to be distracted.

I shared your Einstein letter at Meeting on Sunday…
It was very well received.
Thanks for sharing it.

Love and Light beautiful sister,
Maggie