now you're on a roll like me! i can list innumerable incidences of violence. we need to look at them so we can stop!
i have been concerned about a young man i really love. he's as dear as my children, but since he's not a bio-kid, he's slipping away. he has been making some poor choices, and so people are labeling him, blaming him. and, yes, we do need to take responsibility for our choices, but some people never have a chance. this young man was born to a physically abusive man. his parents split and he was the youngest of four, living with a sick, single mom. he grew up in poverty. he was not worth medical or dental care to our representatives, and so he lived in pain sometimes. he was labeled poor, shuttled along in school. how could he ever develop any sense of self worth? so i'm reaching out, quietly, just to remind him that someone knows he's alive and is happy for that...
i know of two young men who lived in two different, but similarly chaotic households. both have spoken, ashamedly, of having to eat dogfood, home alone, waiting for a parent to return. one was left overnight sometimes. we live in such violence. could we stomach seeing the private lives of people?
when i read about your reaction to the woman who was becoming short-tempered with her child, it came to me that staring stops the behavior in public because it stimulates shame. we need a 'me, too!' response or action to include the mom, let her know we all get tired and cranky sometimes.
we loved having you here. i loved having you here. i'm so glad you're considering coming back. i thought about coming down when my youngest comes to visit her dad, but i don't want to leave while the dog is still with me.
i found the crook for the basket of flowers, but i haven't gotten my plants in the ground yet. tonight is supposed to be cold, so everything is on the back porch...maybe tomorrow.
the next day, the cast comes off. there may be capital letters in my future!!
i love you, hugs to all at your house...
clare
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