Lofty idea

That is a lot to take in.
I think that there is something to the archetype of the sacrificial lamb...
maybe not Jungian...
but still there is something to be gained by allowing oneself to be sacrificed for family or community or society's sake.
What do we gain from that sacrifice of self and our own personal needs...
back to the martyr and the benefits of martyrdom.
Praised by the "Church"...
but poorly chosen in the eye of evolution.
If we are truly animals driven by the need to reproduce and survive why is there an urge or allowance of martyrdom...why can we sacrifice our own life, or innocence, to placate family or society?
Moms do it in almost all species so there must be some evolutionary benefit to this action.

I actually would like to begin with the young women that you are speaking of...figure out what and how to ask the questions...because she is comfortable.
I would like to gather many stories though so that a more complete understanding of violence, particularly interpersonal violence, is obtained. It will lend more credence and depth to the work...and hopefully answer some of our questions....those that need to be fully understood by us...and others.

I am thinking of Brene Brown and her qualitative research on vulnerability and whole-heartedness...she came to her conclusions after many, more than a thousand interviews. I will do the "leg work"...I'll get a digital recorder and record interviews and then we can analyze and categorize the types of response...until we can wrap our heads around violence...the core motivators...and the things that propagate the cycle.

At this point we can bring a lot of personal experience to the subject...but it will be more powerful if we have others' stories to illustrate and strengthen the conclusions.

A lot of lofty ideas...
but this is how I am being guided...

Maggie